Lending Money: Where Do You Draw the Line?
There is a particular kind of awkwardness that comes with lending money to a friend or family member. You give them the money because they need it, agree on when they’ll return it, and then the deadline passes. Suddenly, asking for your own money back feels like an uncomfortable conversation you don’t even know how to start.
Someone shared a story online that captured this perfectly. They had lent a friend some money, and when the agreed repayment date came, they reached out to ask for it back. The response was: “What do you need it for?”
It is such a strange question. You don’t normally need a reason to ask for your own money back.
And this is one of the things about lending money that doesn’t get talked about enough: Lending someone money also means taking on the risk that you might not get it back.
That’s why you should not lend what you can’t surrender
The first thing to consider is: don’t lend money you cannot afford to lose.
You’re definitely not hearing this for the first time. But somehow, we end up giving out what we can’t lose.
If getting the money back late, or not getting it back at all, would put you in a difficult financial position, you cannot really afford to lend it.
Your savings are not spare money
Imagine you have ₦300,000 saved. Someone close to you needs ₦100,000 urgently and promises to return it next month.
You might think, “I have ₦300,000, so I can lend them ₦100,000.”
But if that ₦300,000 is your emergency fund, part of your school-fee savings, money for rent, or savings towards a specific goal, you don’t actually have ₦300,000 available for lending. What you have is assigned to something else.
If you have to choose between protecting your own financial cushion and helping someone else financially, it is okay to protect the cushion.
Look at the pattern
One late repayment doesn’t necessarily tell you everything about someone. People can genuinely run into financial difficulties and be unable to meet a promise they fully intended to keep.
But patterns are different.
So, when do you know where to draw the line?
There isn’t one universal number of times. But there are certain moments when you should probably take a step back and reconsider the arrangement:
When the repayment date keeps moving. One delay can happen. But if every agreed date comes with a new date, pay attention.
When you’re always the one asking. If you have to keep reminding someone about money they promised to return, the arrangement is already becoming one-sided.
When they ask for more before clearing the old debt. A new request while the previous one is still outstanding is worth thinking twice about.
When their response changes after you ask for your money. Someone who was easy to reach when they needed the money shouldn’t suddenly become difficult to reach when it’s time to return it.
When you are starting to resent the situation. If lending has moved from something you willingly chose to something you feel pressured or uncomfortable doing, that’s worth paying attention to.
You can still help
If you genuinely want to help, you could give an amount you can comfortably afford to part with, rather than lending an amount you need back. You could contribute towards a specific bill. You could help them think through another way to raise the money. Or, if you have no room in your finances, you can simply be honest about that.
And if you do decide to lend, don’t leave the arrangement vague. Agree on the amount, when it will be repaid and what happens if they cannot meet the original date.
This is what you should hold on to: Before you lend someone money, ask yourself one question:
If this money never comes back, will I still be financially okay?
If the answer is no, that’s probably not money you can afford to lend.
You can be generous. You can show up for people. You can help someone through a difficult moment.
Just don’t make your own financial stability the price of doing it.
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Nigeria’s economy is projected to grow by 4.3% in 2026 and average 4.4% annually between 2027 and 2028, according to the World Bank’s latest Nigeria Development Update (NDU).
The bank attributed the positive outlook to ongoing economic reforms, including petrol subsidy removal and foreign exchange liberalization, urging the government to sustain the policies to maximize their benefits.
Nigeria’s economy grew by 4.2% in the first half of 2026, compared with 3.9% in 2025, driven largely by the services and agriculture sectors. Inflation is also projected to decline from around 15% to approximately 12% by 2028.
The report noted that state government revenues increased by about 93% in real terms between 2023 and 2025. However, it called on state governments to improve spending efficiency and invest more in human capital to raise living standards and reduce poverty.
Speaking at the report’s presentation in Abuja, the Minister of Finance and Coordinating Minister of the Economy, Taiwo Oyedele, said the projections indicated that the government’s economic reforms were yielding results. He added that economic growth had outpaced population growth, expressing optimism that poverty levels would decline.
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Nigeria’s gross foreign exchange reserves rose to $54.9 billion as of September 25, 2026, from $32 billion in April 2024, supported by portfolio inflows, export earnings and diaspora remittances. Fitch projects economic growth of 4.3% in 2026, up from 4% in 2025, while average annual inflation is expected to moderate to 15.4%.
However, the agency expects the fiscal deficit to widen to 3.6% of GDP in 2026, from 3.1% in 2025. General government interest payments are projected to average 27% of revenue between 2026 and 2028, compared with a 14% median for countries rated ‘B’.
Fitch said sustained improvements in reserves, inflation and government revenue could support a future rating upgrade. However, renewed foreign exchange pressures, weaker policy credibility or a sustained widening of the fiscal deficit could trigger negative rating action. Nigeria’s rating remains at ‘B’; only the outlook has changed.
Debt Interest Takes 124% of FG’s Revenue in H1 2026
According to the World bank, Federal Government spent N7.7tn on interest payments between January and June 2026, exceeding its total revenue of N6.2tn by N1.5tn. Interest payments rose by 37.5% from N5.6tn in the same period of 2025, largely due to high domestic borrowing costs.
Government revenue increased by 72.2% to N6.2tn, supported by higher oil receipts and corporate tax collections. However, total expenditure also rose to N16.1tn, while reported capital spending fell to N700bn. The government spent about 11 times more on interest payments than on reported capital projects during the period.
Despite the spending pressures, the fiscal deficit narrowed from N11tn in the first half of 2025 to N9.9tn in the corresponding period of 2026. However, the World Bank cautioned that the improvement was partly due to low capital spending and warned that rising personnel costs, interest payments and additional spending could increase pressure on government finances.
Nigeria’s public debt stood at an estimated N177tn in 2025, equivalent to 40% of GDP. The World Bank recommended reducing expensive borrowing, seeking more concessional loans, extending debt repayment periods and improving revenue collection to ease interest costs and free up funds for development projects.
